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slow stroll to your dreams.

“Follow your dreams!”

I’d like to argue the above quote is one of the most common expressions shared in life. And pretty damn good advice!

Because what is life without experiencing love, joy, and success? An empty vast of time in which we just await death. Unfulfilling and lonely.

Okay so, follow your dreams. But how?

That’s the thing, there is no one way. And that’s a frustrating fact for many that need help getting started on the journey. But it’s also a beautiful thing if you really think about it.

Because not all dreams are alike. So it would make sense, for example,that someone who  desires to own a gelato shop and an aspiring fashion designer would have different steps to take to making their dream come true.

But what is true in all cases of those trying to make their dreams reality is that YOU HAVE TO DO THE WORK. It’s really not enough to just talk about it. May seem pretty common sense, I know, but you’d be surprised how hard it is for those that are:

  • crippled with doubt
  • afraid of failure
  • afraid of success
  • unmotivated/lazy
  • mentally unstable
  • lacking resources

You get the point. So it takes them a little longer to get to working on their goals. I imagine that there will come a day for them where they get too restless and fed up of not living the life they wish to live. Or, even better, they get the right inspiration/epiphany/ realization at the right time that sets them in motion.

And it’s okay to be experiencing all those things listed above, but you have to find a way through it. Because nothing will come to fruition without actual effort.

Remember, it’s not a race. It sure feels like it sometimes. Some are born running to the finish line, and others choose to take the scenic route. Just get there.

 

-Stephii

 

 

 

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Breaking My New Year’s Resolutions Already?!

Every year millions of people make resolutions for the new year per tradition. Self-help books and magazines fly off the shelves. Gyms undoubtedly see an increase in memberships. The weight loss industry makes millions as people try to shed the extra holiday pounds yet again. Everyone is ultimately trying to become a better person, whether physically, mentally, spiritually, and/or financially.

The new year brings upon a feeling of a new start, a clean slate if you will.

I am one of the millions of people who made New Year’s resolutions. It’s only been a few weeks into the new year, and I realize I haven’t quite mastered the art of sticking to my new years resolutions already.   😦 I feel guilty but I also am happy I am aware that I could be doing better. After all, the first step is admitting you have a problem.

Not to worry, I have about 48-49 more weeks of 2016 to continue working on these resolutions. Improving your self is a process, and not meant to happen overnight.

Check out my video below on the resolutions I’ve already messed up on / haven’t started yet.

I would love to hear from you. Share your thoughts below!

xo -Stephanie

 

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what i would tell my younger self

Hello all!

Today is considered #ThrowbackThursday in the social media world and I was just reflecting on the past & which photo I could upload for the hashtag. Of course thinking of the past brings all the good and bad memories. But instead of spiraling into a sad mood when thinking of bad/painful memories (which is so easy for me to do) I thought of what I would tell myself if I could speak to the Stephanie in the past.

So here it goes:

1.) You can and WILL get through this. Is it super hard right now? Yes. Will it last forever? No…nothing ever does.

2.) That whole timeline of your life, you know…the one where you have mapped out all the milestones you would like to achieve and at what age…? Yeah, so just go ahead and throw that shit out. Or at least understand that everything doesn’t happen when you want. There will come obstacles, delays, curve balls—in short, life can get messy. Try to stay in the present and just recalculate whenever your life is getting off course, sort of like GPS.

Of course when life doesn’t go the way we planned it can get frustrating but look, life is not a race, even though….

3.) Time moves at super sonic rates the older you get. It will seem like everytime you blink it’s Christmas or your birthday– again, all there to remind you of how fast you’re aging. It’s disturbing. But maybe motivating to go out there and really live your life! Cuz time is flying by, with or without you.

So there are just a few life tips I would give myself if I could somehow go back in time and pass them to myself.

Even knowing these tidbits now, I still have to remind myself every now and then. Because I am human and I can get irrational and such.

Now, this can’t help my past self (because somehow time machines do not exist yet)  but maybe anyone reading this can benefit from it. 🙂

xoxo

StephiiG

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EVOLVE

It’s easy to become the type of person you don’t want to become. With lack of inner motivation or any inspiration in sight, I have easily become an empty version of myself.
Sure, I can use the excuse of how life gets so hectic. Easy to get sucked into the boring routines of it. It’s all true,  but still.
I look in the mirror and can’t even recognize myself. All the resolutions I set in place just a mere few months ago now a distant memory. GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF!
Don’t panic. Because every day when the sun rises it is a new day, new page, new song, new beginning, etc…take whichever analogy you like. But I know as long as my heart is beating that I have the gift of life.

That means there is still time on my side.
So as I look into this mirror and see a few things that I can work to adjust-mind, body, spirit- I quickly set aside my guilt and remind myself to get back to work.
As long as I am alive, it’s never too late.

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Gut.

Sometimes we ignore that gut feeling we feel within ourselves. You know… the one that just won’t let up and drives you completely mad. You can’t shake it no matter how hard you try. Things/people distract you from it occasionally but through it all it is still there. Gnawing at you. Until you just can’t take it anymore.

The ironic part is realizing your instinct was correct all along. Had you listened to it from the beginning, maybe, just maybe, things would have turned out entirely different. Or maybe not.

Either way, it is completely frustrating to realize that ignoring your gut feeling was the wrong move. But hey, don’t beat yourself up. We are all human. We all make mistakes. And sometimes that entails being your own worst enemy. Hell, even Ms. Olivia Pope herself has lost touch with her gut from time to time.

Next time, try to be more aware of what that gut of yours is trying to tell you. Maybe fear is inhibiting you from following through with what your intuition is trying to alert you. And that is okay. But just imagine how upset you will be to find out that once again you didn’t follow your heart and something bad resulted from that. As crazy, ridiculous, scary as it may sound, that gut feeling you possess, be it bad or good, could be on to something.

Or it could be gas. Time is the teller of all.

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Saturday Reflections

I’ve been working hard to let go and just live.

I can only tackle my obstacles head on when they arrive.

No sense in beating myself up with doubt and guilt.

No sense in living in the past or obsessing over the future.

Once I let go of this anxiety, life started to become a little easier to bear.

Practicing patience and acceptance is benefiting me greatly.

Exciting things on the horizon for me.

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Day 9 of #30Layers30Days: Enough is Enough

Where do you go or what do you do to escape from the world and recharge?

We all encounter those moments where we would like to smash our heads into a wall at work. Parents, how about those times where you wish your little ones stopped wailing for you or screaming randomly just because…? Don’t be shy, there’s probably a dozen times a day you wish you could POOF, vanish from the world and just gather your composure. If that’s so, let me share with you some of the things I do to escape and recharge.

  • TRAVEL. I love to travel to anywhere outside of my comfort zone. Even if it’s just a city away. Being away from home revitalizes me. Seeing new surroundings inspire me to continue living a purposeful life. I strive for success honestly so I can be able to afford to travel more often. This is just one way I escape but not feasible most of the time.
  • TIME-OUT. Sit in a quiet place with little to no distractions. I allow myself to sort of meditate and try to relax. After a few moments of calm breathing, I usually try to give myself a pep talk to rejoin the world and carry-on.
  • MUSIC. It is usually an immediate mood booster for me. Music brings out emotions in me that inspire me to continue on in my day with a smile.
  • WRITING. It’s a therapeutic process to spill out my emotions onto the page of a journal. I write until I no longer feel so tightly wound up. It helps me to admit my stressors and inspires me to fix my problems.
  • READING. I read a lot. I read blogs, non-fiction, fiction, newspaper articles, EVERYTHING. I love to learn and am constantly seeking knowledge. Reading allows me to do that. I also like to be swept away in a story. It’s like taking a vacation without taking a step out of your home.
  • POSITIVE SOCIAL MEDIA. I tend to follow people that do creative projects and/ or are have passions. It’s their story and process that always inspire me to do better. I am inspired by other’s talent and drive to follow their dreams. Honestly, seeing good people achieve success is so rewarding. It gives me hope of one day doing the same. Whenever I get fearful of pursuing my dreams, I look to others that have followed their passions despite their fears. It allows me to get the courage for myself.

There you have it, my 6 ways I escape from the world and recharge. What are some things you do to keep from going under? Feel free to comment below.


I’m participating in the #30layers30days challenge by GG Renee. It’s a self-discovery challenge for the whole month of November. Be sure to check out All the Many Layers for more details.

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