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Goodbye 2014! Hello 2015 ;)

Happy New Year Champagne 2015 (click to view)

Just like many others, I am welcoming 2015 with wide open arms! I am embracing the new year and the new memories that are in store for me.

Every new year brings about excitement and inspiration. It’s a time where most are inspired to make their lives better in anyway possible. Today, the last day of the year, is the day we reflect on our choices for the last 365 days. Did we keep our resolutions? Did we achieve any new feats? And ultimately, are we happy with ourselves and our life?

This year for me was emotionally taxing. I spent the majority of it in a moderate depression and the general feeling of unhappiness. Some family issues arose and pushed me to ultimate stress levels. So, hence why I am running to the new year , just praying things will be different!

I’m not saying my life was horrible, because it wasn’t and I did get to do some awesome things in 2014. But the unhappiness in my life forced me to make drastic decisions and step outside of my comfort zone. That’s exactly when things began to look up for me.

I’m already sure that 2015 will be different. Hopefully, there will be quite a few changes. Although change makes me anxious, I am oh so ready for it!

Here are my 2015 New Years Resolution:

  • Be punctual
  • Having perseverance in all things I do
  • Improving my health (mind + body)
  • Continue to push myself out of my own comfort zone

In the comment section below, share with me some of your new years resolutions? Did you accomplish any that you set for 2014?

Until next time world…

xoxoxo

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Saturday Reflections

I’ve been working hard to let go and just live.

I can only tackle my obstacles head on when they arrive.

No sense in beating myself up with doubt and guilt.

No sense in living in the past or obsessing over the future.

Once I let go of this anxiety, life started to become a little easier to bear.

Practicing patience and acceptance is benefiting me greatly.

Exciting things on the horizon for me.

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Thankful

Happy Thanksgiving!

I am most thankful this year for my life. Without my life, or good health, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the gifts life has to offer. My life may not be perfect but it’s a good one. It is worthy of my appreciation. And I may not be exactly where I want to be and that’s okay. I’m working on it.

The beauty of every new day is that we are blessed with another chance to experience this world. Take advantage of that blessing.

Go learn something new. Be kind to a stranger. Give back to your community. Take time to love and care for yourself. Follow your dreams. The limits are boundless…

Here’s a list of what I am thankful for (from most important to not so important):

  • My life + Good health
  • Family
  • Soon-to-be Husband, Cameron
  • Close Friends
  • My Crazy dog, Charlie
  • My home
  • The troops (thank your for your service!)
  • My blog followers
  • Music
  • Curly Hair products
  • Books
  • Netflix
  • Chocolate
  • Pizza
  • Actually, all food (except seafood) 🙂

In the comments below, feel free to share what you are thankful for this time of year.

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Retrospect: My Year as 25

Every birthday for me is like my own personal new year. I look back upon the year and analyze how it went. Did I achieve what I planned to do, what setbacks occurred, but most of all, how can I improve for my next year of life. See on the eve of my 26th birthday, here’s a look on the highs and lows of the past year.

  • College Graduation. Yippeeeee! College was a long and hard battle for me. I was so thrilled to finish. I got my Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Sociology. My family was ecstatic when I walked across the stage but most of all I made myself proud!
  • BIG CHOP! I cut my hair into a tapered t.w.a. (teeny weeny afro). I did it because I had never had short hair and wanted to try something different. Despite many people’s protests, including my fiancé, I finally got the nerve to do it in March. I fell in love with it! Then I shaved it all off in July out of sheer curiosity how that would look. Needless to say, I got a lot of disapproving stares and lectures. It was a time when I felt like I had no control of my life, but I DID have control of my hair. So I definitely took advantage of it.
  • J+B: ON THE RUN. I attended my first real concert this past summer and it was of two of my favorite artists: Jay-Z and Beyoncé! These two set the bar high for the future performers I go to see. I spent good money on field seating to the first tour date in Miami and let me say, I DO NOT regret it! It was a brilliant and fun show. Two and a half hours of the couple performing their hits and keeping us fully entertained. It’s a show that I will remember forever, and watch over and over again on HBO GO. 😉
  • OPERATION: SISTER SENDOFF TO NYU. Also, this summer I had the privilege of visiting New York again. This time was primarily to help my littlest sister move in to her dorm at New York University. It was a jam-packed weekend of me taking her to the usual tourist spots and showing her a piece of NY. It was emotional leaving her, knowing I wouldn’t see her for months ahead. But her making me extremely proud is worth it! J
  • Done with the Dreary. I did suffer from slight depression in the summer and was forced to evaluate how I was living my life. I quit some things that were no longer making me happy, including my job. It was an extreme risk but ultimately brought back a feeling of control. I had to come to terms that living in fear and sadness was not the way I wanted to continue. It has been a hard yet satisfying choice. I’m so appreciative to have friends and family that lent me moral support during those months.

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So, there you have it, the way I lived out the age of 25. For 26, I want to keep the momentum going. My life is not perfect, but the more steps I take towards building a successful future, the closer I can get to perfect. Here are a few things I would like to achieve and /or start in the next year.

  • Continue to build my relationship with God.
  • Marry the love of my life.
  • Move to another state.
  • Begin Graduate school.
  • Start attending a fitness class. Maybe yoga or kickboxing.
  • Continue to build my blog and brand.

Thank for reading! XOXOXO

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Unplugged|| Louis C.K. Explains it Best

Yesterday, I attempted to go an entire day without logging on to any social media or internet. I just wanted to have a quiet Sunday to myself, without knowing what everyone else was doing or whatever. Out of sheer habit, I did reach for my phone a few times and almost tapped on the social app icons. However, I quickly refrained from logging on. Until the end of the night…

As I sat in my car waiting for my sister to get out of work, I couldn’t bear it anymore. The boredom was driving me nuts. I blasted my favorite tunes and that eventually stopped working. So, at around 11:30, I caved in and went to Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. I soaked in all that I had missed the hours before and felt like I was a part of the world again.

I did feel slight guilt, only because I couldn’t follow through with a promise to myself. Was it really that hard to be alone with my thoughts? It’s not like it’s impossible for me to unplug—I’ve done it in the past for weeks at a time. It does take great discipline and self-awareness.

What happened to me last night reminds me of Louis C.K. on ‘Conan’ last year. In the interview, Louis shared with Conan that he believes cellphones are toxic to children and hasn’t gotten them for his young daughters yet. He stated that cellphones have hindered people to “just be yourself and not be doing something.” He shared how one time he was driving and decided to not reach for his phone when he felt a wave of loneliness and sadness. Louis’ poetic yet hilarious example of himself is a must-see.

In my opinion, Louis C.K. is a comedic genius! He flawlessly explained the human struggle with our emotions and how we have our smartphones to distract ourselves from them.

Maybe, next time when I decide to unplug I will be able to commit to it. I’ll remember Louis’ words of wisdom of letting myself feel the emotion and not try to veer from it. It is a cleansing experience to be able to face our emotions and fears.

What did you think of the comedian’s thoughts on cell phones? Have you ever tried to unplug and were you successful? Feel free to comment below!

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Day 12 of #30Layers30Days: Playground

There are two places that I consider my happy place: the beach and bookstore.

The beach calms my soul. Whenever I feel distressed, a visit to the beach can restore my senses. Perhaps it’s the sound of the waves that soothes me. Or perhaps it’s the salty wind that blows through my hair. Whatever it is, the beach is just my little escape from the world. I can easily look out into the vast ocean and let my thoughts go free. After a visit, I usually feel refreshed and restored. Since I live in Florida, I usually visit the beach fairly often. Beautiful beaches are just a perk of living in South Florida. 😉

Any bookstore/library is another place that I love to go to. When I walk into a bookstore, I feel like a kid in a candy store! Pure joy fills my heart. All the knowledge and entertainment in the room excites me. Plus the smell of books is a weakness of mine. Yes, I know, I’m strange. Most of all, I love to see other people that are as enthusiastic about books in there. I feel most at ease when I’m perusing bookshelves, looking for a great read. Sometimes life can be too demanding to lounge in a book store. I try to visit book stores as often as possible, but not as much as I’d like.

What are your happy places? Where do you feel most comfortable and able to let down your defenses? Share in the comment box below.


I am participating in the #30Layers30Days self-discovery challenge all November. Be sure to check out All the Many Layers Blog for more details.

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Day 11 of #30Layers30Days: SOULMATE

Describe what the term ‘soulmate’ means to you and whether or not you are embodying that meaning for yourself.
In other words, are you your own soulmate?  Is your relationship with yourself intimate and kind, supportive and unconditional? 
Soul• mate:
a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond (dictionary.com).

I’ve pretty much defined a soulmate as the definition listed above. I would also add that a soulmate is a someone destined to be with another. So, in theory, we all have a soulmate. It’s a very romantic notion that people fantasize about often. How many of you are obsessing of when and how you will meet yours? And then what happens after you meet yours? Well, it’s a well-known fact that once you meet your soulmate, you are expected to spend the rest of your life with them. After all, they are your soulmate.

In regards to myself, I’m not sure if I treat myself as my own soulmate. I do love myself. I’m heavily aware of my strengths and flaws. I wish all the time for changes in myself. Some changes are feasible and some are just going to stay a dream.

I learned from a young age that I am the only one guaranteed to be present in my whole life. I’ve heard the expression, “I was born by myself and I’ll die by myself” countless times. So as long as I am living, I would have to be certain to care and love myself. Depending on others to do so is not an option. This may make me selfish in some aspects, but to me it’s just good practice.

I admit that I could be more supportive and have more unconditional love for myself. With the slightest failures I tend to criticize myself the harshest. I’ve discussed my problems with self-doubt in previous posts. Ultimately, being my own biggest cheerleader could be a lot more helpful.

I’m a constant work in progress. Being aware of that is part of the process to becoming a better me. I figure that I’m stuck with myself, so I might as well cozy up to the idea of treating myself as my soulmate.

Tell me your thoughts on soulmates below. Are you your own soulmate?


I am participating in #30Layers30Days self-discovery challenge for November. Be sure to check out All the Many Layers blog for more details.

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