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slow stroll to your dreams.

“Follow your dreams!”

I’d like to argue the above quote is one of the most common expressions shared in life. And pretty damn good advice!

Because what is life without experiencing love, joy, and success? An empty vast of time in which we just await death. Unfulfilling and lonely.

Okay so, follow your dreams. But how?

That’s the thing, there is no one way. And that’s a frustrating fact for many that need help getting started on the journey. But it’s also a beautiful thing if you really think about it.

Because not all dreams are alike. So it would make sense, for example,that someone who  desires to own a gelato shop and an aspiring fashion designer would have different steps to take to making their dream come true.

But what is true in all cases of those trying to make their dreams reality is that YOU HAVE TO DO THE WORK. It’s really not enough to just talk about it. May seem pretty common sense, I know, but you’d be surprised how hard it is for those that are:

  • crippled with doubt
  • afraid of failure
  • afraid of success
  • unmotivated/lazy
  • mentally unstable
  • lacking resources

You get the point. So it takes them a little longer to get to working on their goals. I imagine that there will come a day for them where they get too restless and fed up of not living the life they wish to live. Or, even better, they get the right inspiration/epiphany/ realization at the right time that sets them in motion.

And it’s okay to be experiencing all those things listed above, but you have to find a way through it. Because nothing will come to fruition without actual effort.

Remember, it’s not a race. It sure feels like it sometimes. Some are born running to the finish line, and others choose to take the scenic route. Just get there.






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what i would tell my younger self

Hello all!

Today is considered #ThrowbackThursday in the social media world and I was just reflecting on the past & which photo I could upload for the hashtag. Of course thinking of the past brings all the good and bad memories. But instead of spiraling into a sad mood when thinking of bad/painful memories (which is so easy for me to do) I thought of what I would tell myself if I could speak to the Stephanie in the past.

So here it goes:

1.) You can and WILL get through this. Is it super hard right now? Yes. Will it last forever? No…nothing ever does.

2.) That whole timeline of your life, you know…the one where you have mapped out all the milestones you would like to achieve and at what age…? Yeah, so just go ahead and throw that shit out. Or at least understand that everything doesn’t happen when you want. There will come obstacles, delays, curve balls—in short, life can get messy. Try to stay in the present and just recalculate whenever your life is getting off course, sort of like GPS.

Of course when life doesn’t go the way we planned it can get frustrating but look, life is not a race, even though….

3.) Time moves at super sonic rates the older you get. It will seem like everytime you blink it’s Christmas or your birthday– again, all there to remind you of how fast you’re aging. It’s disturbing. But maybe motivating to go out there and really live your life! Cuz time is flying by, with or without you.

So there are just a few life tips I would give myself if I could somehow go back in time and pass them to myself.

Even knowing these tidbits now, I still have to remind myself every now and then. Because I am human and I can get irrational and such.

Now, this can’t help my past self (because somehow time machines do not exist yet)  but maybe anyone reading this can benefit from it. 🙂



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It’s easy to become the type of person you don’t want to become. With lack of inner motivation or any inspiration in sight, I have easily become an empty version of myself.
Sure, I can use the excuse of how life gets so hectic. Easy to get sucked into the boring routines of it. It’s all true,  but still.
I look in the mirror and can’t even recognize myself. All the resolutions I set in place just a mere few months ago now a distant memory. GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF!
Don’t panic. Because every day when the sun rises it is a new day, new page, new song, new beginning, etc…take whichever analogy you like. But I know as long as my heart is beating that I have the gift of life.

That means there is still time on my side.
So as I look into this mirror and see a few things that I can work to adjust-mind, body, spirit- I quickly set aside my guilt and remind myself to get back to work.
As long as I am alive, it’s never too late.

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Goodbye 2014! Hello 2015 ;)

Happy New Year Champagne 2015 (click to view)

Just like many others, I am welcoming 2015 with wide open arms! I am embracing the new year and the new memories that are in store for me.

Every new year brings about excitement and inspiration. It’s a time where most are inspired to make their lives better in anyway possible. Today, the last day of the year, is the day we reflect on our choices for the last 365 days. Did we keep our resolutions? Did we achieve any new feats? And ultimately, are we happy with ourselves and our life?

This year for me was emotionally taxing. I spent the majority of it in a moderate depression and the general feeling of unhappiness. Some family issues arose and pushed me to ultimate stress levels. So, hence why I am running to the new year , just praying things will be different!

I’m not saying my life was horrible, because it wasn’t and I did get to do some awesome things in 2014. But the unhappiness in my life forced me to make drastic decisions and step outside of my comfort zone. That’s exactly when things began to look up for me.

I’m already sure that 2015 will be different. Hopefully, there will be quite a few changes. Although change makes me anxious, I am oh so ready for it!

Here are my 2015 New Years Resolution:

  • Be punctual
  • Having perseverance in all things I do
  • Improving my health (mind + body)
  • Continue to push myself out of my own comfort zone

In the comment section below, share with me some of your new years resolutions? Did you accomplish any that you set for 2014?

Until next time world…


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Saturday Reflections

I’ve been working hard to let go and just live.

I can only tackle my obstacles head on when they arrive.

No sense in beating myself up with doubt and guilt.

No sense in living in the past or obsessing over the future.

Once I let go of this anxiety, life started to become a little easier to bear.

Practicing patience and acceptance is benefiting me greatly.

Exciting things on the horizon for me.

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Happy Thanksgiving!

I am most thankful this year for my life. Without my life, or good health, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the gifts life has to offer. My life may not be perfect but it’s a good one. It is worthy of my appreciation. And I may not be exactly where I want to be and that’s okay. I’m working on it.

The beauty of every new day is that we are blessed with another chance to experience this world. Take advantage of that blessing.

Go learn something new. Be kind to a stranger. Give back to your community. Take time to love and care for yourself. Follow your dreams. The limits are boundless…

Here’s a list of what I am thankful for (from most important to not so important):

  • My life + Good health
  • Family
  • Soon-to-be Husband, Cameron
  • Close Friends
  • My Crazy dog, Charlie
  • My home
  • The troops (thank your for your service!)
  • My blog followers
  • Music
  • Curly Hair products
  • Books
  • Netflix
  • Chocolate
  • Pizza
  • Actually, all food (except seafood) 🙂

In the comments below, feel free to share what you are thankful for this time of year.

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Retrospect: My Year as 25

Every birthday for me is like my own personal new year. I look back upon the year and analyze how it went. Did I achieve what I planned to do, what setbacks occurred, but most of all, how can I improve for my next year of life. See on the eve of my 26th birthday, here’s a look on the highs and lows of the past year.

  • College Graduation. Yippeeeee! College was a long and hard battle for me. I was so thrilled to finish. I got my Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Sociology. My family was ecstatic when I walked across the stage but most of all I made myself proud!
  • BIG CHOP! I cut my hair into a tapered t.w.a. (teeny weeny afro). I did it because I had never had short hair and wanted to try something different. Despite many people’s protests, including my fiancé, I finally got the nerve to do it in March. I fell in love with it! Then I shaved it all off in July out of sheer curiosity how that would look. Needless to say, I got a lot of disapproving stares and lectures. It was a time when I felt like I had no control of my life, but I DID have control of my hair. So I definitely took advantage of it.
  • J+B: ON THE RUN. I attended my first real concert this past summer and it was of two of my favorite artists: Jay-Z and Beyoncé! These two set the bar high for the future performers I go to see. I spent good money on field seating to the first tour date in Miami and let me say, I DO NOT regret it! It was a brilliant and fun show. Two and a half hours of the couple performing their hits and keeping us fully entertained. It’s a show that I will remember forever, and watch over and over again on HBO GO. 😉
  • OPERATION: SISTER SENDOFF TO NYU. Also, this summer I had the privilege of visiting New York again. This time was primarily to help my littlest sister move in to her dorm at New York University. It was a jam-packed weekend of me taking her to the usual tourist spots and showing her a piece of NY. It was emotional leaving her, knowing I wouldn’t see her for months ahead. But her making me extremely proud is worth it! J
  • Done with the Dreary. I did suffer from slight depression in the summer and was forced to evaluate how I was living my life. I quit some things that were no longer making me happy, including my job. It was an extreme risk but ultimately brought back a feeling of control. I had to come to terms that living in fear and sadness was not the way I wanted to continue. It has been a hard yet satisfying choice. I’m so appreciative to have friends and family that lent me moral support during those months.

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So, there you have it, the way I lived out the age of 25. For 26, I want to keep the momentum going. My life is not perfect, but the more steps I take towards building a successful future, the closer I can get to perfect. Here are a few things I would like to achieve and /or start in the next year.

  • Continue to build my relationship with God.
  • Marry the love of my life.
  • Move to another state.
  • Begin Graduate school.
  • Start attending a fitness class. Maybe yoga or kickboxing.
  • Continue to build my blog and brand.

Thank for reading! XOXOXO