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Breaking My New Year’s Resolutions Already?!

Every year millions of people make resolutions for the new year per tradition. Self-help books and magazines fly off the shelves. Gyms undoubtedly see an increase in memberships. The weight loss industry makes millions as people try to shed the extra holiday pounds yet again. Everyone is ultimately trying to become a better person, whether physically, mentally, spiritually, and/or financially.

The new year brings upon a feeling of a new start, a clean slate if you will.

I am one of the millions of people who made New Year’s resolutions. It’s only been a few weeks into the new year, and I realize I haven’t quite mastered the art of sticking to my new years resolutions already.   😦 I feel guilty but I also am happy I am aware that I could be doing better. After all, the first step is admitting you have a problem.

Not to worry, I have about 48-49 more weeks of 2016 to continue working on these resolutions. Improving your self is a process, and not meant to happen overnight.

Check out my video below on the resolutions I’ve already messed up on / haven’t started yet.

I would love to hear from you. Share your thoughts below!

xo -Stephanie

 

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EVOLVE

It’s easy to become the type of person you don’t want to become. With lack of inner motivation or any inspiration in sight, I have easily become an empty version of myself.
Sure, I can use the excuse of how life gets so hectic. Easy to get sucked into the boring routines of it. It’s all true,  but still.
I look in the mirror and can’t even recognize myself. All the resolutions I set in place just a mere few months ago now a distant memory. GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF!
Don’t panic. Because every day when the sun rises it is a new day, new page, new song, new beginning, etc…take whichever analogy you like. But I know as long as my heart is beating that I have the gift of life.

That means there is still time on my side.
So as I look into this mirror and see a few things that I can work to adjust-mind, body, spirit- I quickly set aside my guilt and remind myself to get back to work.
As long as I am alive, it’s never too late.

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Goodbye 2014! Hello 2015 ;)

Happy New Year Champagne 2015 (click to view)

Just like many others, I am welcoming 2015 with wide open arms! I am embracing the new year and the new memories that are in store for me.

Every new year brings about excitement and inspiration. It’s a time where most are inspired to make their lives better in anyway possible. Today, the last day of the year, is the day we reflect on our choices for the last 365 days. Did we keep our resolutions? Did we achieve any new feats? And ultimately, are we happy with ourselves and our life?

This year for me was emotionally taxing. I spent the majority of it in a moderate depression and the general feeling of unhappiness. Some family issues arose and pushed me to ultimate stress levels. So, hence why I am running to the new year , just praying things will be different!

I’m not saying my life was horrible, because it wasn’t and I did get to do some awesome things in 2014. But the unhappiness in my life forced me to make drastic decisions and step outside of my comfort zone. That’s exactly when things began to look up for me.

I’m already sure that 2015 will be different. Hopefully, there will be quite a few changes. Although change makes me anxious, I am oh so ready for it!

Here are my 2015 New Years Resolution:

  • Be punctual
  • Having perseverance in all things I do
  • Improving my health (mind + body)
  • Continue to push myself out of my own comfort zone

In the comment section below, share with me some of your new years resolutions? Did you accomplish any that you set for 2014?

Until next time world…

xoxoxo

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Retrospect: My Year as 25

Every birthday for me is like my own personal new year. I look back upon the year and analyze how it went. Did I achieve what I planned to do, what setbacks occurred, but most of all, how can I improve for my next year of life. See on the eve of my 26th birthday, here’s a look on the highs and lows of the past year.

  • College Graduation. Yippeeeee! College was a long and hard battle for me. I was so thrilled to finish. I got my Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Sociology. My family was ecstatic when I walked across the stage but most of all I made myself proud!
  • BIG CHOP! I cut my hair into a tapered t.w.a. (teeny weeny afro). I did it because I had never had short hair and wanted to try something different. Despite many people’s protests, including my fiancé, I finally got the nerve to do it in March. I fell in love with it! Then I shaved it all off in July out of sheer curiosity how that would look. Needless to say, I got a lot of disapproving stares and lectures. It was a time when I felt like I had no control of my life, but I DID have control of my hair. So I definitely took advantage of it.
  • J+B: ON THE RUN. I attended my first real concert this past summer and it was of two of my favorite artists: Jay-Z and Beyoncé! These two set the bar high for the future performers I go to see. I spent good money on field seating to the first tour date in Miami and let me say, I DO NOT regret it! It was a brilliant and fun show. Two and a half hours of the couple performing their hits and keeping us fully entertained. It’s a show that I will remember forever, and watch over and over again on HBO GO. 😉
  • OPERATION: SISTER SENDOFF TO NYU. Also, this summer I had the privilege of visiting New York again. This time was primarily to help my littlest sister move in to her dorm at New York University. It was a jam-packed weekend of me taking her to the usual tourist spots and showing her a piece of NY. It was emotional leaving her, knowing I wouldn’t see her for months ahead. But her making me extremely proud is worth it! J
  • Done with the Dreary. I did suffer from slight depression in the summer and was forced to evaluate how I was living my life. I quit some things that were no longer making me happy, including my job. It was an extreme risk but ultimately brought back a feeling of control. I had to come to terms that living in fear and sadness was not the way I wanted to continue. It has been a hard yet satisfying choice. I’m so appreciative to have friends and family that lent me moral support during those months.

gradgrad 1big chopchopbald  brat  friends   nyu

So, there you have it, the way I lived out the age of 25. For 26, I want to keep the momentum going. My life is not perfect, but the more steps I take towards building a successful future, the closer I can get to perfect. Here are a few things I would like to achieve and /or start in the next year.

  • Continue to build my relationship with God.
  • Marry the love of my life.
  • Move to another state.
  • Begin Graduate school.
  • Start attending a fitness class. Maybe yoga or kickboxing.
  • Continue to build my blog and brand.

Thank for reading! XOXOXO

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