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what i would tell my younger self

Hello all!

Today is considered #ThrowbackThursday in the social media world and I was just reflecting on the past & which photo I could upload for the hashtag. Of course thinking of the past brings all the good and bad memories. But instead of spiraling into a sad mood when thinking of bad/painful memories (which is so easy for me to do) I thought of what I would tell myself if I could speak to the Stephanie in the past.

So here it goes:

1.) You can and WILL get through this. Is it super hard right now? Yes. Will it last forever? No…nothing ever does.

2.) That whole timeline of your life, you know…the one where you have mapped out all the milestones you would like to achieve and at what age…? Yeah, so just go ahead and throw that shit out. Or at least understand that everything doesn’t happen when you want. There will come obstacles, delays, curve balls—in short, life can get messy. Try to stay in the present and just recalculate whenever your life is getting off course, sort of like GPS.

Of course when life doesn’t go the way we planned it can get frustrating but look, life is not a race, even though….

3.) Time moves at super sonic rates the older you get. It will seem like everytime you blink it’s Christmas or your birthday– again, all there to remind you of how fast you’re aging. It’s disturbing. But maybe motivating to go out there and really live your life! Cuz time is flying by, with or without you.

So there are just a few life tips I would give myself if I could somehow go back in time and pass them to myself.

Even knowing these tidbits now, I still have to remind myself every now and then. Because I am human and I can get irrational and such.

Now, this can’t help my past self (because somehow time machines do not exist yet)  but maybe anyone reading this can benefit from it. 🙂



good advice


It’s easy to become the type of person you don’t want to become. With lack of inner motivation or any inspiration in sight, I have easily become an empty version of myself.
Sure, I can use the excuse of how life gets so hectic. Easy to get sucked into the boring routines of it. It’s all true,  but still.
I look in the mirror and can’t even recognize myself. All the resolutions I set in place just a mere few months ago now a distant memory. GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF!
Don’t panic. Because every day when the sun rises it is a new day, new page, new song, new beginning, etc…take whichever analogy you like. But I know as long as my heart is beating that I have the gift of life.

That means there is still time on my side.
So as I look into this mirror and see a few things that I can work to adjust-mind, body, spirit- I quickly set aside my guilt and remind myself to get back to work.
As long as I am alive, it’s never too late.

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Day 11 of #30Layers30Days: SOULMATE

Describe what the term ‘soulmate’ means to you and whether or not you are embodying that meaning for yourself.
In other words, are you your own soulmate?  Is your relationship with yourself intimate and kind, supportive and unconditional? 
Soul• mate:
a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond (

I’ve pretty much defined a soulmate as the definition listed above. I would also add that a soulmate is a someone destined to be with another. So, in theory, we all have a soulmate. It’s a very romantic notion that people fantasize about often. How many of you are obsessing of when and how you will meet yours? And then what happens after you meet yours? Well, it’s a well-known fact that once you meet your soulmate, you are expected to spend the rest of your life with them. After all, they are your soulmate.

In regards to myself, I’m not sure if I treat myself as my own soulmate. I do love myself. I’m heavily aware of my strengths and flaws. I wish all the time for changes in myself. Some changes are feasible and some are just going to stay a dream.

I learned from a young age that I am the only one guaranteed to be present in my whole life. I’ve heard the expression, “I was born by myself and I’ll die by myself” countless times. So as long as I am living, I would have to be certain to care and love myself. Depending on others to do so is not an option. This may make me selfish in some aspects, but to me it’s just good practice.

I admit that I could be more supportive and have more unconditional love for myself. With the slightest failures I tend to criticize myself the harshest. I’ve discussed my problems with self-doubt in previous posts. Ultimately, being my own biggest cheerleader could be a lot more helpful.

I’m a constant work in progress. Being aware of that is part of the process to becoming a better me. I figure that I’m stuck with myself, so I might as well cozy up to the idea of treating myself as my soulmate.

Tell me your thoughts on soulmates below. Are you your own soulmate?

I am participating in #30Layers30Days self-discovery challenge for November. Be sure to check out All the Many Layers blog for more details.

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#30layers30days: Day 1: I Am…

I am…

I am Stephanie.

I am two races in one body.

I am a quiet girl with a tumultuous soul.

I am always thinking, calculating, dreaming…

I am a little bit mad, but that’s what drives me.

I am a product of a harsh environment yet still filled with love.

I am choosing happiness for now and for always.

I am a person constantly evolving.

I am not perfect,

and I am coming to terms with that.

I am beautifully flawed.

I am living my life on my own terms.


I’m participating in the #30layers30days challenge by GG Renee. It’s a self-discovery challenge for the whole month of November. Be sure to check out her blog for more details.

good advice

…but words will never hurt me.

Let’s face it, we all have friends, family, coworkers, etc. who always feel the need to talk trash about someone else. Society calls them haters, gossipers, I just call them nosey MF’ers. Whatever term you use, we all can agree on one thing: those individuals have nothing better to do than to worry about what the Jones’ are doing. Now, I know occasional gossip is natural, I’m not speaking about that today. I’m speaking about the sad souls who don’t have their life in order but always feel the urge to verbalize their feelings about someone else’s life. Messy.

I actually have adopted a personal rule that I use while speaking about others; if I haven’t or can’t say it to a person’s face, I won’t say it behind their back. It’s just a basic principle that has saved me so much time and energy. In my opinion, I have no business judging everyone else and how they carry out their life. The negativity and envy that is involved in talking trash behind someone’s back is just not for me. Besides, I have too much going on in my own life to stop and judge others. How can I ever do me while I’m busy watching everyone else do them?

What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally. Remember that.

Just know that when people are talking about you, ridiculing you, disrespecting you in anyway, that reveals more of the type of person they are than who you are. It eventually becomes obvious that that person may be petty, racist, ignorant, and/or have low self-esteem. I know that it’s a bad feeling to know that someone is speaking ill of you. Actually, it can be infuriating. But people shouldn’t ever feel the need to have to explain themselves or their life choices.

What others think about me is none of my business!

Of course people are going to talk and judge but I don’t care to entertain those fools. The opinions that others hold about me, they are entitled to. Just like it’s my right to not have to justify my life or try to explain myself to them. I have this one life to live and I’m busy trying to make it marvelous!

So haters are gonna hate, right? But that’s okay. Because I know who I am and what I stand for. And I also know that the hate that they have is with themselves. And quite frankly, that’s just none of my business.

Please feel free to leave thoughts or comments below! I’d love to hear.

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Blue Sky

blue sky

I want to feel like how the blue sky appears.

Want my soul to be draped in warmth, like the sun is near.

Want my soul so bright, take my breath away,

Just as gorgeous as a sunny day.

I want to feel as open as the abundant sky.

As light and airy as the clouds that hang way up high.

Just as deep and tranquil as it’s blue hue,

I want to feel inside what Mother Nature can effortlessly do.

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Dear Woman…

Dear Woman,

You are beautiful,

Inside and out. 

Stop focusing on your flaws

And embrace your special traits that make you YOU!

And if they don’t think you’re beautiful, well…

Screw them.


Dear Woman, 

You are different and not everyone will get it.

The ones who appreciate your uniqueness, love and cherish them.

The ones who don’t get it but respectfully tolerate it, thank them.

The ones who blatantly ostracize you for your individualism and do not want to understand, well…

Screw them.